The next few days may prove very difficult for writing, so ideas without much development may be the order of the day.
Discussion. It means many things to each person, but needs to happen. A space is needed for each voice or each opinion. Size and volume should not be determinants. Yet, once it starts, rules ought to apply. The problems arise when the rules are not agreed. I talk, then you talk? I talk, you talk when you feel like it? We each take a deep breath, then talk together, drowning out each other? Any combination?
Some decisions need to be made about what to do with the results. Like the rules for talking, better to have these agreed before too much energy gets invested. Anger and irritation may ensue without this, as ‘noses get knocked out of joint’.
Where it takes place? When it takes place? How long it takes place? All up for grabs.
I once worked for an organization where tea and biscuits were served at all meetings where ‘senior’ staff were present: meetings started on time, were focused, never went on beyond their set time, and conclusions were communicated. I then worked for an organization, where the belief was that lack of refreshments would aid discussion: meetings often began late, people rambled around topics, the purpose often seemed vague, conclusions were often lacking.
Ladies crowded round a tea pot, buns and icing near at hand. Chatter, chittering.